Friendship

One of the first problems God ever saw in His creation was loneliness.

"Now the Lord God said, "It is not good (beneficial) for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper [one who balances him--a counterpart who is] suitable and complimentary for him." - Genesis 2:18

God's answer to this challenging problem was the gift of relationships. While marriage stands as a central example of this concept, the Bible also highlights numerous friendships that demonstrate the profound value of companionship. Whether through romantic bonds or deep, meaningful connections, these relationships reflect the importance of sharing life's journey with others. Some of Jesus' final words on the cross were a demonstration of His deep care for others. He ensured that His mother and His brothers and sisters in Christ would comfort and care for one another during this time of sorrow. If our relationships did not hold this ability, they would be pointless. 

"So Jesus, seeing His mother, and the disciples whom He loved (esteemed) standing near, said to His mother, "[Dear] woman, look, [here is] your son!" Then He said to the disciple (John), "Look! [here is] your mother [protect and provide for her]!" From that hour the disciples took her into his own home." - John 19:26-27

Relationships serve many purposes, offering countless opportunities for connection and growth, and when we focus on friendships through the lens of the Bible, we uncover deep, profound, and truly meaningful benefits that can positively shape our lives. So, today we'll explore a few of these examples and uncover the valuable lessons they offer.

Jonathan and David

We see this remarkable friendship primarily in the book of 1 Samuel. It was an unexpected bond, forged against the odds and tested by numerous challenges. Yet, adversity only seemed to strengthen their connection. This relationship demonstrates the value of having the right kind of friends—ones who are not only loyal but also fiercely protective, no matter the circumstances or who they are shielding you from. In David's case, this loyalty saved his life multiple times, often from dangers he never even saw coming. 

"Many a man proclaims his own loyalty and goodness, But who can find a faithful and trustworthy man?" - Proverbs 20:6

Paul and Timothy

This dynamic duo is prominently featured in the book of Acts, as well as in 1 and 2 Timothy. Their partnership, rooted in spiritual brotherhood, became a powerful example of true discipleship and the importance of investing in others for a greater purpose. Timothy served as Paul’s protégé, and their relationship demonstrated mutual humility and growth. Paul modeled humility by mentoring Timothy and entrusting him with responsibilities he could not fulfill alone. In turn, Timothy exhibited teachability, patience, and a willingness to follow Paul’s guidance. Their collaboration underscores the value of learning from one another and supporting each other in gaining knowledge, maturity, and spiritual growth. Ultimately, their combined efforts contributed to significant church growth, as both men selflessly shared the spotlight to advance their mission.

"Two are better than once because they have more satisfying return for their labor." - Ecclesiastes 4:9

Naomi and Ruth

We see a beautiful example of bonded women in the book of Ruth. Though connected by marriage, their actions demonstrated a deep friendship and unwavering loyalty. In a time when it would have been understandable to prioritize their own needs, these two remarkable women chose selflessness instead. Both women were navigating heavy situational grief. In the midst of their sorrow, they discovered something profound: having someone by your side who understands your pain can be a source of immense comfort. Naomi had lost her son, while Ruth had lost her husband. Both shared the heartache of mourning the same person and the daunting task of rebuilding their lives from the ground up. They knew the struggles of starting over and finding ways to support themselves. Shared experiences can create an unbreakable bond. There’s an undeniable hope that springs from hearing stories of struggles and triumphs that mirror our own. When we feel connected to someone else’s journey, we also feel seen, especially during moments when we might otherwise feel invisible. This is why support groups, online communities, and spaces like Facebook groups for singles or moms have grown in popularity. Being in the same season of life as someone else reminds us that we’re not alone in our challenges—and that connection can be the lifeline we need.

"Carry one another's burdens and in this very way you will fulfill the requirements of the law of Christ [that is, the law of Christian love]." - Galatians 6:2

Jesus and the Disciples

The relationship between Jesus and His disciples provides a deeply personal insight into the value of friendships. Throughout the New Testament, we witness the unique bonds He formed with each disciple—some closer than others, yet all equally loved. The disciples left behind the comforts of their homes to follow and support Him, and in return, Jesus offered them unwavering reassurance and affection, as well as a purpose. We observe moments of heartfelt and challenging conversations, episodes of betrayal met with forgiveness, and times filled with tension as well as laughter. These interactions offer a compelling reminder of the importance of flexibility in relationships. Friendships, like any relationship, have their ups and downs—times of joy and times of difficulty. But when we commit to nurturing and working through them, they can become deeply rewarding and profoundly meaningful. These meaningful relationships teach us the true essence of selflessness – setting aside personal desires for the sake of our friendships. It’s not always about grand gestures like sacrificing your life or leaving everything behind. Often, it’s about the small, everyday acts of kindness: giving up your Friday night to comfort a grieving friend, answering a 2 a.m. phone call from someone in need, or making time in your busy schedule for a coffee date because a friend values your advice. Whatever the situation, selflessness in friendships creates a ripple effect. When we choose to invest in others with genuine care, these acts not only strengthen our bonds but also bring deep personal fulfillment in return.

"No one has greater love [nor stronger commitment] that to lay down his own life for his friends." - John 15:13

The bottom line is this: if Jesus valued friendships during His time on earth, how much more should we cherish them—especially when they are biblical, reciprocal, and authentic. The challenge many people face isn’t questioning the value of friendship, but rather dealing with the type of friends they sometimes choose—friends who can make them feel as though they’re better off alone. That’s why, over the next few weeks, we’ll embark on an in-depth exploration of friendship, uncovering the wisdom and reminders God shares with us about this beautiful gift He has given us. 

Sincerely Selena